I wrote to Moxie. She warned me. The readers warned me. I didn’t listen. I hope this serves as a warning to others who might fall into the same trap. A few years ago, I met a guy online who was in the US on a temporary visa briefly. We met a few months before he had to back to his country so I held back from him emotionally to protect myself. We only dated a weeks before one day he stopped returning me calls suddenly. It hurt and I tried a few times to figure out what happened

A few months after he went back he friend requested me on Facebook out of the blue. I kept it light as I didn’t want to get hurt again like before. Slowly he started to regain my trust through consistent chats. We spent hours together online sharing daily life. One day there was this horrible batch of posts on his FB page from two women who said they were played by him and who warned others not to be fooled by his lies.

We continued to get closer over time. I kept wanting to go visit him but he kept saying the timing wasn’t good repeatedly. One day he told me he loved me. I was over the moon as I loved him too deeply. This September I finally went to see him and spent two weeks with him intimately. I had a magical time with him. He was so romantic and attentive every moment. We both cried our eyes out on the airport (he also cried after sex a few times). I truly felt like he was the man for me forever.

I missed him like crazy but felt we could find a way to be together somehow. So, about a week after my vacation I’m on Twitter and it suggests people to follow. Imagine my surprise when I saw a woman’s profile photo – it was of the two of them looking cozy. She posted about 30 pictures all together of the two of them happily. From her Tweets I learned she flew in from her country and spent a week with him right before. She left the day I flew in exactly.